"My bae has to be 6ft3+, his head needs to touch the sky ... Short babies are a huge NO and I aint taking no risk with these 5ft8 guys before I get midget kids ! I need to NOT be able to reach his shoulders" "5ft7 ? You better 5ft out of my DM's" "A Cadbury chocolate bar skinned bae please .... Edible chocolate skin, hazel eyes ONLY" "He can only get my number if he has a car ... oyster ? what's an oyster ?"
And so on and so on !
Now, I know a lot of us have preferences which may be as deep as the examples I've given about (Don't be ashamed if you are one of the people who have preferences like those ... I sure was one of them!) But don't you kind of find it funny how we all have our own perceptions of what our "Ideal Bae" must look like, smell like, sound like and most importantly be like. And the sad truth is that it is VERY UNLIKELY we will find someone who reaches our preferences exactly. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to have preferences because hey ! we are only human at the end of the day, but the idea I'm trying to express here is that you SHOULDN'T ALLOW PREFERNCES to be your DOWNFALL when it comes to relationships.
It is very easy to allow your preferences of what your ideal "bae" must look and be like distract you from good catches that are right in front of you ! . If you have managed to scoop a boy or girl who matches your "ideal bae" idea, then good on ya ! But what about those who haven't managed to ?
When it comes to preferences, we can easily be blinded by good things which are staring right at us ! And that sadly is a normal thing, however how do we make that UN-NORMAL ?
Well firstly boooothanggg, understand that the "perfect boy" or "perfect girl" will not fly from the sky and meet you. But do understand that a decent boy or girl who may only tick your 4/10 boxes of your "IDEAL BAE" may actually end up becoming your "Ideal bae". I've been in a situation where I found someone who ticked 8/10 boxes on my ideal bae list. He was tall, Nigerian, Good looking, had money and most importantly he drove ! Girllllll, when I tell you this boy lacked PERSONALITY. I'm not even joking. As innnnn, I was texting myself because the convo was so dry. And it got me thinking ... this is a boy who was my "Ideal Bae" and the second he finally became bae, I realised that my "ideal bae" was not for me. He ticked my boxes but the relationship was a failure.
It had Me thinking, if my idea of perfection was him, why was I not in a flourishing relationship like I had HOPED FOR .. if he was so "perfect". And to be honest that's when it clicked ... Preferences will only be preferences, I could get all my preferences in a boy, and still NOT be happy. And yes, we all want our boxes ticked, but it is not everything that we WANT that we GET. I got WHAT I wanted in a boy, but did I GET Happiness ? Psh, far from. (sorry if your reading this ex ... Lol, this is a BIT DEEP ... your still a nice guy, just not right for me)
Don't allow yourself to turn down pretty decent and possible matches because you want a "6ft4" guy and the boy that is talking to you is "5ft7". Things could still pop off and you don't want to FINALLY get your preferences ticked only to find out your idea of an "IDEAL BAE" turns out to be everything you don't want in a boy/girl.
Understand that bae's will ALWAYS be about, you may not have found bae in 2014 ... and may be hoping to find bae in 2015. (IJN you will ! ) But maybe you already met your bae but allowed your preferences to turn that someone away.
Love always comes around and so does relationships. So my sairassecret tip for you ? Don't allow PREFERNCES for an "Ideal Bae" to be your downfall. When bae comes, you will know it and strong preferences like the ones above will not matter. Do not allow your preferences to take over who you are ... "Ideal Bae's" Don't exist ... but when you meet someone who makes you happy and you know you can be with ? *Ding Ding* There's Bae !
Hope you enjoyed the read guys, Have a lovely Christmas and New Year !
I'll speak to you soon.
Toodles
sairassecret
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